My Best Friend’s Death — and My Own Survival — Taught Me the Vulnerability of Joy

My entry into the Medium Writers Challenge is about the single most impactful moment of my life. It’s about my journey through grief, and the sense of “foreboding joy” (as Brene Brown calls it) that has been a part of my life ever since. And of course, it’s a tribute to one of the greatest humansContinue reading “My Best Friend’s Death — and My Own Survival — Taught Me the Vulnerability of Joy”

There’s More To You Than Motherhood (And It’s OK To Say It Out Loud)

| 5 minute read | I don’t want motherhood to be all there is to me. Has this thought ever crossed your mind? When I look in the mirror, I see a compassionate soul, a bubbly extrovert, a caring friend, a singer/actress who wishes she could dance, a bookworm, a Georgetown and Michigan grad, aContinue reading “There’s More To You Than Motherhood (And It’s OK To Say It Out Loud)”

I Almost Let My Expectations Steal My Joy

| 3 minute read | We recently had a beautiful family getaway to a nearby hotel. But I almost let my own expectations get in the way of my joy. I had spent hours searching for the perfect hotel. I knew it had to be beautiful and a little bougie, because that’s what feels restorativeContinue reading “I Almost Let My Expectations Steal My Joy”

PART TWO — Non-Autistic Parents: Why We Should Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable

| 4 minute read | “When we speak over autistic voices, we teach our children that they don’t have the power to speak for themselves… “When we uplift autistic voices, even when it means lowering our own, we show our children that we honor them as the experts on their own experience: both now, andContinue reading “PART TWO — Non-Autistic Parents: Why We Should Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable”

Non-Autistic Parents: Why We Should Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable

| 4 minute read | “The moment we (as non-autistic parents) enter conversations with autistic adults, we bring our privilege with us. Living in an ableist society that caters to people with brains like ours means that we have blind spots – whether we realize it or not.” Click here to read the full article,Continue reading “Non-Autistic Parents: Why We Should Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable”

5 things I want you to know about my autistic kid

| 6 minute read | Happy Autism Acceptance month! So far, I’ve spent April doing my best to amplify the voices of autistic people on social media – the advocates who have been irreplaceable in my parenting journey since our almost-3-year-old, Koimburi, was diagnosed last July. In that same spirit, I’m here to share 5Continue reading “5 things I want you to know about my autistic kid”

How would you parent if no one was watching?

| 4 minute read | I had a mini parenting crisis two nights back. We had a free trial for a fun coding game that Keziah enjoyed, and it was on its last day. She and I talked that morning about how this was our last day with the app, but we clearly both forgot.Continue reading “How would you parent if no one was watching?”

Confronting our privilege: how to get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable

| 7 minute read | Last Sunday, my husband and I were on a Zoom call with friends, and the conversation drifted to how excited we were to be getting our vaccines. Hunja had just gotten his, along with a few others on the call, and the rest of us were feeling hopeful about gettingContinue reading “Confronting our privilege: how to get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable”